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No One Is Lost to Us ... When someone we love dies, our deepest need is to know that they continue, safe and well, remembering us and watching over us as we make the best of things here without them. We pray we will see them again someday. Without contact it's certainly possible to go on with our lives. That's what many people do. Some rely on faith while others simply do their best to survive from one day to the next.


We, my wife and I, have met about a dozen other
parents that have lost their son or daughter since
we lost Peter. To our surprise we found that we knew
a few of these couples before Peter passed, but we
knew nothing about their loss. They never said a word
to us about it, keeping it to themselves, at first I
wondered why, I know now. They say time heals all,
they are wrong, the hurt from losing a child does not
heal. Not in 3 years, 5 years, 9 years or even 20 years.
They, of course are the people who tell you to move
on, to get over it, the ones who luckily have not lost
a child. To these people I say don't tell me, you cannot
understand, so please, no more advice. We, my
wife and I now do not mention our loss to any new
people we may meet.





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Don't Tell Me
by Judi Walker 1998
Please don't tell me you know how I feel, unless you have lost your child too.
Please don't tell me my broken heart will heal, because that is just not true.
Please don't tell me my son is in a better place, though it is true, I want him here with me.
 Don't tell me someday I'll hear his voice, see his face, because beyond today I cannot see.
Don't tell me it is time to move on, because I cannot.
Don't tell me to face the fact he is gone, because denial is something I can't stop.
Don't tell me to be thankful for the time I had, because I want more.
Don't tell me when I'm my old self you will be glad, I'll never be as I was before


Abbeville Grief Support Group Meets the First Monday of Each Month
Submitted by Tracey Jackson

The Abbeville Grief Support Group meets the first Monday of each month at 6:30 PM. The Grief Support group is a place of caring, understanding, and compassion for those who have lost a loved one.
**Please note the location has changed, meetings are now held in the Conference Room at the Wellness Center located next to the Abbeville Area Medical Center.
For more information please call Louise Aikens at 459-4777 or Tracey Jackson at 446-3407.